who am I, how do i figure out

The Martha Beck quote on helplessness that keeps me strong

And it’s just so darn tempting, because it feels so safe.

If I don’t take any risks, I won’t get hurt.

If I follow the rules, they’ll approve of me.

If I ask for help nicely, they’ll think I’m a good girl.

But you know what? I’d rather be  a strong girl…